I've heard many people say they dislike Christians because they are (or atleast appear to be) the most judgemental. In truth and fairness, some people like to remind others of what the rules are in the Bible, telling them what the Bible considers unacceptable behaviors. I used to be one of those people who reminded people that what they did was a sin, ask for Gods forgiveness and move on. However recently I've stopped doing that because as Christians we should all know what the rules are, but because we are only human we break a few, sometimes on accident and sometimes on purpose. Remind them of their sin will not make them feel any better, but will only feel angered. People don't like to be reminded of their mistakes. If I tell someone "As Christians we're not supposed to do that." That person will no longer want to be a Christian, because of "too many rules." So it's better to not mention it right away. Bring it up subtlety and don't make it sound like your condemning someone.
Granted some church folks do it for no other reason than to annoy you, but lets face it. Christians are not really the most judgmental. It appears that way because we expect them to behave a certain way. Remember just because their Christians doesn't mean their super human. We're not untouchable, we're not Power Rangers. We don't get supernatural gifts. We still live on the same planet, with the same group of people, same bosses, same dull jobs, same schools. We're still people and people judge in general. Should Christians be different? Yes, but their not transformers! They can't change from one thing to the next and become something different overnight. It takes time. Being a Christian is a rebuilding process. It's worse than highway construction, the change can take years. Every Christian tries to be better, weather they show it or not is a different story, but isn't one that reflects the entire Christian community. It's an individual issue. No one is perfect and becoming a Christian does not make us perfect either. We are still human, we feel, we hurt, we suffer just like anyone else.
As a single guy. I can tell you that females over the years have been extremely judgmental towards me Christian or not, but I don't single out a specific group of girls and start bashing them. It's kind of hard to when its pretty much the entire gender!
If you say Christians are the most judgmental, than you are far worse than they are, because you are not judging an individual, you are judging an entire group of people and generalizing on top of it all. We always like to look at what others do, but we never look at ourselves. Don't be like the girls on Facebook who have issues with some guy and they start to bash the entire male gender and say we're all jerks. They only dated maybe 1-5 men out of the 4 billion males that walk this planet. How can they all possibly be the same. Just because you've had a bad experience with a few Christians doesn't mean some 2 billion + are the same.
In no circumstances should a person especially a Christian judge someone. The Bible says in Jesus' own words: "Do not judge so that you will not be judged. "For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. "Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? "Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' and behold, the log is in your own eye? "You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye." (Matthew 7:1-5). Gotta love Jesus!
